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First Time

I wanted this to happen when I was a kid- much younger than I am now.

I thought I would get some attention, some sympathy and maybe a pass on some chores.

It never happened. That is, not until last Saturday.

I broke my arm in spectacular fashion.

Xena, the wonder dog, and I were walking along the greenway. It was a beautiful day. A bit windy but, full of sun.

Under a bridge, there is a concrete pad that disappears into the creek. Sometimes Xena likes to get a drink so I got her to the water. She was not thirsty.

As I took my next step, my legs were suddenly airborne and in front of me. I instinctively put my arms out behind me and landed on my rear end. And my left arm.

I sat there for a few minutes and assessed myself. I dropped the leash but Xena didn’t wander. I also didn’t throw up from the pain. Thankful.

I called my friend who was on the same greenway. She immediately prayed and walked quickly to her car.

I’m still on the ground. Thankfully, not in the water. But it’s mossy and muddy. I was a bit timid to try to stand by myself. Finally, someone was coming closer.

I called out and asked if she could help me. She said sorry and pointed to her cell phone near her ear. Mmmm. I’m going to choose to believe she was intimidated by my German Shepherd mix who was off leash and standing alert by my side.

I got myself turned over and on my feet with a lot of prayer.

I slowly walked to the nearby school where Jill was going to pick me up. Tim was working 30 miles away but I managed to call him too. Jill and I headed for my house to grab my purse, leave Xena, update mom and then to her place to drop her dogs.

She continued to pray for favor. We were in the ER for just over an hour. It was amazing. I got in to see the doctor at SportsMed on Monday. Thankful!

I didn’t get the hard cast that I had wanted when I was a kid. No, I was told surgery was needed because the radius was broken in two places. I was in shock!

But, while I was waiting for them to replace the ER cast, I was able to wash my arm. That felt really good. It still had mud on it.

I am very grateful to usually have two good working arms and it is amazing how quickly you adapt when necessary. I never cracked an egg with one hand before. But now I have. It only took two days for my eggs not to have shells.

I have not yet mastered the art of putting my hair in a ponytail. It’s just going to stay down.

Asking for help is not a strong skill of mine but, I’m learning. Mom cuts up food like I am a child again. But, I am grateful to have bite sized chicken and apples.

I guess I am getting attention, sympathy and a pass on chores that require two hands. I definitely try to make it happen though. Lots of laughter ensues.

Friends are driving me to surgery and bringing us food. Tim has been cooking. Mom has been cleaning.

Thankful for the body of Christ to be His hands (and mine!)

Kind Words

Because I am a writer, I love words. I like to look up the meaning of unknown words. I like to use meaningful words to you, the unknown reader. (See what I did there?)

But the words I enjoy the most are the kind and unexpected words. The ones that are unsolicited. The words that aren’t required. The words that can change everything.

Thank you!

You are so friendly!

You have a great smile!

I am so glad you are here!

I appreciate the work that you did!

You are amazing!

You mean so much to me!

I see you. I know you. I love you.

Share some kind words today with a friend, family member, or a complete stranger.

And don’t forget to remind yourself too.

Adulting

Yes, I started this post with slang.

Adulting is an informal term to describe behavior that is seen as responsible and grown-up, if mundane and unpleasant—like bills and chores, according to Dictionary.com.

I’ve been above the age of 21 for sometime now. I should be used to it. I should be thriving in adulthood.

And sometimes, I am.

But then there are days like today. I just don’t want to (insert anything here.)

There are bills to pay, dishes to wash, dog hair to vacuum and a lot of clutter to clear. But I don’t want to.

But, I know it’s better for me if I do. It’s better for this household also.

The Apostle Paul states in Romans 7:11, “For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate.” (ESV)

I don’t like being lazy. I don’t like wasting time. But I still do.

Shift my focus!

Everything I have comes from God. Everything I need comes from Him too.

Should I ask the Lord to help me clear the clutter? Absolutely!

Should I ask the Lord to help focus me on the mundane tasks? Yes!

All with a thankful heart! Thankful that we were able to seek and receive medical attention when we needed it. Thankful that we have the dishes to serve the food that is in our refrigerator. Thankful for the clothes we have and a machine that washes them. Thankful for the dog that brings me so much joy. Thankful that I can serve Him where I am with what I have.

Have you ever thought about that? Everything we have to worship God with – our minds, bodies, voices, hands, etc. – everything we have, came from Him.

And He has more for us. So be faithful in taking care of what He has given you today. He has more for us.

Let’s get started! Are you moving yet? Here I go!

(Originally posted May 15, 2025. But every bit relevant on this day too. Lord, please redeem this day!)

Busy Day

Hello, 2026! Woo hoo!

My once blank calendar is being filled with appointments. I have the mundane and also have things to look forward to.

Today is one of those days when there is a lot to do. I need to…I want to. How to fit it all into the day?

Our church begins each year with 21 Days of Prayer and Fasting. During the week, service starts at 6am and on Saturday it’s at 9am. Building a habit to read scripture and to pray takes time. But it is so beautiful to see the line of cars pulling into the church so early in the morning.

It’s a great way to start the day. But if I am not careful, it will be just that one hour. I will leave the service and immediately start to think, “Ok, that’s done. What’s next?”

God doesn’t just want the first hour of my day. He wants my heart.

He doesn’t want to just be on my to-do list. He wants my heart.

As I was praying this morning, I was reminded that His Spirit lives in me. I carry Him with me throughout my day.

When I constantly surrender myself to Him, I hear His voice. He will tell me which way to go.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him….

In all your ways – everything you do, trust Him, don’t try to figure everything out. Submit to Him.

You want to stop being confused? Stop trying to figure everything out. Trust Him.

The verses from Proverbs 3 also come with a promise.

…and He will make your paths straight.

I have always wanted God to just give me the outline of the next year, month or day of my life. So I know what to expect. So I know how to prepare. Basically, so I can control.

But He wants me to trust Him. To submit, to surrender. To abandon my life – in all areas to Him.

And He promises to guide and direct me. He doesn’t leave me! He also promises an abundant life. His ways are higher and better.

Lord, I believe. Help my unbelief. Grow my faith and trust. I give You this day and my agenda. Help me to hear your voice.

Please join us for these prayer services. Live or on demand. Let me know if you do. (https://21days.churchofthehighlands.com/)

All Things New

Happy New Year!

The freshness of a new year – a blank slate – a fresh start – a new beginning.

That sounds good. But unless you deal with the old – thoughts, habits, attitudes, words – you are just bringing them with you into a new year.

Dealing with these things requires focus, intentional reflection and heaping amounts of courage. Some of us have been operating with this norm for so very long that it has become like a comfortable shoe.

“Known bondage is easier than unknown freedom.” I love this quote from Kristi McLelland. (https://www.instagram.com/kristimclelland)

Notice it says easier. Not better. Not more desirous. Not more helpful. Just easier.

I know it’s been said that when you get sick of yourself, that’s when you change.

And we don’t have to wait until the new year to start. Every new week, day, hour and moment begins with a choice. Do you want to remain in the same comfortable shoe of bondage?

Or do you want to experience the new norm of freedom, intimacy with God, purpose for your life, vision and wholeness?

What changes will you make to your routine? Let’s start small.

Stop saying words like – This is just who I am. I’m not going to change. There is no hope.

Words have power! Speak life over yourself. Talk with God about who He created you to be! Ask Spirit what He wants you to do today and what changes need to be made. He’ll tell you.

Remember you are not alone. Holy Spirit lives in you and will guide you.

The enemy can’t steal your soul if you belong to Jesus. He can only make you ineffective and mediocre in your life.

Jesus came that you might have an abundant life. Choose!

Merry, truly Merry

I have been in a terrible mood for awhile. I have been unkind in my mind and in my actions.

But, the Lord met me – when I chose to focus on Him and ask what I needed to see.

Holy Spirit, reveal to me people I haven’t forgiven and sins which I haven’t repented.

Whew! The list is long (and it continues to grow.)

But Spirit met me there with such tenderness and love.

Lord, continue to grow my faith and trust. Thank you for never being unfaithful.

Merry Christmas to all!

Christmas Funk

One week to Christmas! Are you excited? Thrilled with anticipation? Looking forward to time with family and friends? Singing Christmas songs while wrapping presents? Planning menus?

Or are you in a funk? Remembering that the season doesn’t live up to the ‘Hallmark’ hype? Not happy with the amount of presents under the tree? Wishing for more? Wishing for less?

I have been in a funk, for sure. But when I really focus on how I got here, it is pretty obvious.

I have been concentrating on what I DON’T have (or think I should have) instead of fixing my eyes on what I DO have.

What do I think I don’t have or I should have?

It’s not more presents (although I always like the unwrapping part.)

It’s not more get-togethers (although I enjoy seeing people but I don’t always spend my time with the people. Such a Martha!)

I know I would enjoy it if my kids/grands would come to church with us. I know I would enjoy it if they even acknowledged the invite.

I know I would love to give a thoughtful, personal gift to people that would be treasured and used.

What do I have?

Family and friends that love me and challenge me with truth.

A church that loves God and people and encourages me to do the same.

Health. Home. Work. Food. Clothes. Both for us and our kids and grands.

A daughter in law who did acknowledge my invitation to church and has visited in the past. A scheduled time for all of us to be together after Christmas.

I have a personal relationship with the God of the universe. He provided a way for my sins’ penalty to be paid. Now, I can live with Him in heaven for eternity.

And this relationship can be yours too. You can never ‘out sin’ God’s love.

God sent His Son, Jesus, to be born in a manger. He is Christ the Lord!

And if I focus on that, worship will come and the funk will disappear.

Thank you, Jesus!

‘Tis the Season

It is the season of more commitments, more food and more to do.

It is the season of much traffic, school band concerts and shopping over your lunch break.

Many people in grocery stores. Much food to prepare. Many things to do.

My prayer for you (and for myself) is that we take a few minutes every day. Do this several times a day and really slow down. Think on purpose about the true meaning of Christmas.

God sent His perfect Son to be born in a feeding trough. He did this so that His Son might one day die to pay the penalty for my sins. Your sins.

This is the Light we need to focus on. This is the Bread of Life we need to consume.

Thank you, Jesus!

Protection

Have you ever had a near miss with a baseball, flying hockey puck or a car?

I have – all three.

I was protected and, in those instances, was not harmed.

Even last night, Tim and I were awakened by something falling. (Notice that it did not seem to bother Xena, the wonder dog.) Tim got up and walked around but didn’t notice anything.

We tried to sleep and I got some but Tim was out of bed before 3am.

Finally, I rolled out of bed and turned the light on. It wasn’t until then that I saw what had fallen. My canvas print of a Van Gogh masterpiece had leaped from the wall. Fortunately, the headboard caught it before it hit our heads.

That certainly wouldn’t have injured us. However, we definitely could have been hurt by the startling and jerking movements if it had hit our heads.

Once again, we were protected.

Sometimes when we pray, we thank God for what we don’t see. For the late start to the traffic which keeps us from being involved in an accident. For the ‘nudge’ to go into this store rather than that one that keeps us from overspending-overeating.

He protects His children.

Does that mean we are never harmed or hurt? Of course not. There will be (and is) trouble in this world.

There is much we do not see. But we can catch a glimpse of it if we keep our eyes fixed on what we know to be true.

Thank Him for the protection you do see and for what you don’t.

Thank You

I came home from grocery store complaining about people in the grocery store.

I complained about unexpected things happening and ‘ruining’ my plans for the day.

I griped when the maraschino cherry juice spilled on the counter, the cabinet, the floor and stained my fingers.

Xena, the wonder dog, awakened me 5 times during the night to go outside. I guess her tummy was upset. I was not happy.

Shall we shift focus, please?

Lord, thank you for food and the money to buy it. Thank you for the variety of choices and the vehicles to get us to and from the stores. Thank you for safe travel.

Father, I pray for these seemingly angry people in the store. Perhaps they are missing a loved one, lost their job, or are going to be alone. Maybe I can only give them a smile. Please help it be sincere.

You, God, direct my steps. I make my plans but You have the final say. Perhaps the delay kept me from running into traffic. Lord, You know the number of my days. Help me to live for You.

Thank you for this house, Lord. I am grateful that I have a space to prepare and store food. I have a switch that changes from heat to cool quickly. Thank you that I can still move my body to clean things off the floor and to open jars. Thank you for your provision. I am also grateful for the people in the house.

And Father, I am thankful that Xena, the wonder dog, awakens me when she needs to go outside. I’m grateful that she has been the best dog and in my life for the past 10 years. I am thankful that she is feeling better.

Please, Lord, bless our time this afternoon with family and friends. Change my heart of stone to one of flesh. I think protecting my heart keeps me safe but that is a lie.

Living with and blessing others with the joy and light of the Lord is what this world needs.

And I want others to know You too. How can I show that with a callous heart? How can I show Your light if I want to be dim and dark?

Change me, O Lord. Thank You in advance. Give me Your words to share with others.

Amen.